Sunday, November 26, 2006

My Fave Xmas Song

All I Want For Christmas Is You
By Mariah Carey

I don't want a lot for Christmas
There's just one thing I need
I don't care about presents
Underneath the Christmas tree
I just want you for my own
More than you could ever know
Make my wish come true...
All I want for Christmas
Is you...

I don't want a lot for Christmas
There is just one thing I need
I don't care about presents
Underneath the Christmas tree
I don't need to hang my stocking
There upon the fireplace
Santa Claus won't make me happy
With a toy on Christmas day
I just want you for my own
More than you could ever know
Make my wish come true
All I want for Christmas is you...
You baby

I won't ask for much this Christmas
I won't even wish for snow
I'm just gonna keep on waiting
Underneath the mistletoe
I won't make a list and send it
To the North Pole for Saint Nick
I won't even stay awake to
Hear those magic reindeer click
'Cause I just want you here tonight
Holding on to me so tight
What more can I do
Baby all I want for Christmas is you

All the lights are shining
So brightly everywhere
And the sound of children's
Laughter fills the air
And everyone is singing
I hear those sleigh bells ringing
Santa won't you bring me the one I really need
Won't you please bring my baby to me

Oh I don't want a lot for Christmas
This is all I'm asking for
I just want to see baby
Standing right outside my door
Oh I just want him for my own
More than you could ever know
Make my wish come true
Baby all I want for Christmas is

All I want for Christmas is you baby



Subject(s): JUVENILE FICTION: Legends, Myths, Fables - General

The Fire Thief
By Terry Deary

The Fire Thief hilariously reimagines the myth of Prometheus, the Greek demigod who stole fire from the gods and gave it to the human race. To escape the gods’ revenge, Prometheus travels through time to Eden City in 1858. There, he befriends a young orphan, actor, and petty criminal named Jim. When Jim runs into trouble with the law, Prometheus is torn—if he uses his powers to get his friend out of trouble, he will betray his hiding place to the gods. Terry Deary masterfully interweaves two plots, with action jumping at a whirlwind pace from Mount Olympus to the seedy taverns and elegant mansions of Victorian Eden City. Packed with puns, wisecracks, and sarcastic footnotes, The Fire Thief turns Greek mythology into a laughing matter.

Flight of the Fire Thief
By Terry Deary

Prometheus is again on the run, and he flees in and out of time before landing in gritty, ramshackle 1795 Eden City. Enter our narrator: Nell, a young girl and aspiring novelist—she and her crafty pa travel the city with their stage show, trying to get their audiences to open up their pockets and purses. As always, Prometheus has a soft spot for humans in need, but using his powers to get his new friends out of trouble will betray his hiding place to the gods! Terry Deary masterfully interweaves two plots, with the action jumping at a whirlwind pace from Mount Olympus to the back alleys of dingy Tudor City.

Fire Thief Fights Back III (2007)
By Terry Deary

Sam and his mother are swindling the people of Eden City with their medicine show, selling “miracle” cures to their gullible audiences. When their ruse is rumbled and the Eden City residents go after them, Prometheus steps in to help out. Meanwhile, they find an unlikely ally in Zeus—who helps get them out of their predicament, but not without a cost. In exchange, he wants Sam and Prometheus to help settle a score with the monsters of Greek mythology. The Fire Thief trilogy builds to a spectacular showdown between the Greek gods and a whole crew of mythical monsters—with plenty of action and Terry Deary’s unique humor along the way. Readers are in for an unexpected and memorable climax.

Saturday, November 18, 2006

Memory Lane

It almost end of the year. Wow! time pass by damn fast. So here i am, almost a year working with this new company. It's time to take a tour down the Memory Lane.

So i stumble upon this pIXs, wish bring great memory during my stay in Kota Kinabalu. How much i miss this time of year.. hahaha.. This Pix taken on My Birthday and Wilma at Coffe
eBean Damai.


10.58pm 18/11/2006

So i cont...

I resign from my previous company just 5 day's before CHRISTMAS 2005. Damn worry sudah, because i haven't had any replacement. But 23th Dec 2006 i was at my home town busy preparing for X'mas i receive a call from current company , Phone Interview ... i was like huh!! so i just give my best shot to answer all the Q. And hey ! they invited me for a second round interview which i bargain with her, 12th Jan 2006, attend the interview and i got accepted and report duty on the 16th Jan 2006. and i was wow!!... that was fast.. just my Luck i think.

Day in, day out.. my parent were here almost a MONTH.. make a trip to the north and south (peninsular malaysia), for the past 4 years my family "cuti-cuti malaysia" at Sabah (North Borneo).

After a few month working, feel need to refresh.. working odd hours killing me softly. i think this is the 1st time ever within a year down with fever and flu.. my sleeping pattern changes completely.. OMG!!!!!!

to be cont... again.... hahaha

Saturday, November 11, 2006

A 10 questions bout Our life!

What do you do if :-

1. You hate your job?
2. You dont love your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend anymore?
3. You dont like your bestfriend anymore?
4. You hate yourself?
5. You stop giving donation to the church?
6. You stop visiting your parents?
7. You dont get the job you want the most?
8. You fall in love with someone husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend?
9. You kil your driving instructor during highway test?
10. You kill someone because YOU drive like mad dog?

Try to answer it.... and good luck...

Monday, November 06, 2006

Dealing With The Death

" What I am feeling right now is hard to put into words. But, I would like to say my CONDOLENCE to My Uncle and Family. We will all miss Flora; she touched so many of our lives "

R.I.Ps : Miss Flora Yabah. 3rd November 2006 (Friday) - Limbang, Sarawak

How does one cope with the death of a friend or family member?
Here are some excerpts from The Why Files that I hope will be helpful.

What is grief?

Grief is an emotion of loss. Perhaps you have felt that emotion when a parent or your spouse moved away after a divorce, when you broke up with a boy- or girlfriend, or when you moved away from your old neighborhood. Even losing a valued object (such as a class ring or some other memento) or an important ball game creates a sense of grief. There's a feeling of separation and loss.

Grief and love are two very similar emotions --if you're capable of love, you are capable of grief. Only a person who never loves never grieves. When you love someone, you feel a oneness and fulfillment with that person. But you also open yourself up to the possibility for grief--when he or she break-ups with you, moves away or dies. The relationship is over and that strong emotion of love mutates like some hideous sci-fi monster into equally strong grief.

"Grief," then, is the B-side side of love. Love expresses emotional oneness, grief expresses emotional separation. "Mourning" is the long, painful process of working through that grief. (In other words, grief is what we feel, mourning is how we react to it.) It's natural to feel up one day and down the next. The strong feelings of grief may seem frightening when we first feel the full force of this powerful emotion. But like other emotions, it's "normal," natural," and "okay."

Each person, however, responds differently to a single death. In the case of a famous person, the grief may be very short-lived since you didn't know them personally. But, on the other hand, if you had a strong emotional attachment to that famous person--who didn't know you--there may be intense grief. Here are some general patterns in how most people experience grief.

Stage One: Shock, numbness, disbelief (one to three days)

"I just can't believe it!" When you first heard the news, you probably felt immediate sense of shock and disbelief. Like "denial" in the dying process, disbelief insulates our emotions so we can deal with immediate demands. If it is a close loved one there may be the tasks of notifying friends and relatives, calling our pastor, letting the school know we'll be out for a few days, cleaning the house for visitors, and so on.

Once the initial numbness wears off, it's normal to cry--everything from watery eyes to uncontrollable sobbing. Crying is a healthy emotional expression of grief, so don't feel that you're being "weak." And ignore ignorant cliches like "smile and the whole world smiles with you, cry and you cry alone."

And it's not unusual to feel anger toward the person for dying: "How dare you leave me to suffer like this!" You may feel angry at the medical staff for not saving your loved one's life--even though the doctors and nurses did everything possible. And it's not uncommon to feel angry at God--even if you're a very devout believer. It's "okay"!

Allow these emotions to be expressed to those you can trust with your feelings--your family, your best friend, a therapist, or a clergy person.

Stage Two: Painful longing and preoccupation with memory and mental images (up to one year)

We often think that the funeral is the hardest time for the survivors, so we may bring in food, visit the family, and attend the funeral. But afterward, we assume they've started the work of putting their life back together. Actually, Stage Two becomes most intense between the second and fourth week afterward. The following experiences are strong for about the first three months and then gradually begin to diminish over the next six months to a year:

  • Painful longing to be with and talk with the dead person
  • Preoccupation with the death (you can't think of anything else)
  • Memories of dead person
  • Mental images of the dead person
  • Sensing that the dead person is in the same room
  • Sadness
  • Tearfulness
  • Inability to sleep
  • Lack of concentration
  • Loss of appetite
  • Loss of interest in things you once enjoyed
  • Irritability
  • Restlessness

You may want to post this list on the refrigerator as fair warning to friends and family members. (In 1800's those grieving bore black "mourning bands" on their arms to announce, "Take it easy on me!")

And don't be afraid to turn to professionals for help during this difficult time. Your doctor may prescribe sleeping pills or tranquillizers so you can sleep nights. School counselors, youth workers, or pastors can provide emotional support and suggestions for overcoming this time of loss. If they can't, they can refer you to those who can.

Stage Three: Resolution and resumption of ordinary life activities (within one year of death)

Starting at about six months, most of us will begin getting back into our normal activities. (Life will never be "normal" again, we can continue many previously "normal" activities.) We'll continue to be broadsided by occasional waves of grief described in Stage Two. But these will become less and less frequent, even though they may be just as intense. Stage Three is summed up with:

  • Acceptance of the death
  • Decreasing sadness
  • The ability to recall past experienced with the deceased with pleasure rather than pain
  • Resuming ordinary activities.

How should I respond to those grieving?

So how do we respond to those going through the mourning process? By saying stuff like "I understand exactly how you feel." Brrrrrooooonk! Wrong answer!

We may have both lost a grandfather, but there are a kabillion differences between my loss and yours. Things you don't understand or know. What kind of relatioship did we have? Were we close or did we see each other only at Christmas? What were the last words spoken? Were they loving, harsh--or worse--indifferent? What kinds of questions, thoughts, and feelings are churning in my mind? What is my concept of death? Or life after death?

See, you really don't "understand." And neither do I completely understand your loss. But I can help by sharing how I felt at my grandfather's death. And in that way, I'm giving you freedom to share your grief.

An older friend recently told me the advice her aunt gave her at the death of her mother twenty years ago. "Don't embarrass us and your self making a scene by crying." Fortunately, "keeping a stiff upper lip" and squelching our emotions went out of style with my grandfather's ties!

"You don't have to talk about the details of the death," is another innocent, but insensitive statement. We somehow think we'll cause them more pain by them talking about it, but it's actually a part of healing. For instance, when my wife's father died, her mother must have told the story of his death ten times--how she found him collapsed on the dining room floor, how she called 9-1-1, how she tried CPR that she had seen on TV, how she rode with him in the ambulance. But interestingly, each time she told it, she seemed to gain emotional strength and comfort. Talking about the details--even if they're cancer, suicide, drowning, murder, or AIDS--helps us past the denial stage and on to dealing realistically with the death.

So, what the best thing to say? The most helpful thing is:

Yep, you can't go wrong with nothing. A shared tear, a squeezed hand, a hug, or just being there is usally the best help. Whatever you do, don't spout off pat answers.

Where is God in this tragedy?

The book of Psalms is filled with such questions. "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why do you refuse to help me or even listen to my groans? Day and night I keep on weeping, crying for your help, but there is no reply" (Psalm22:1-2).

Where is God? He is right there beside us as we struggle with the many questions surrounding the death. He may not write the answers across the sky, but His Son Jesus Christ understands our questions.

Why do good people die so young? Jesus answers, I understand your question. I died at thirty-three.

Why do some people have to die such painful deaths? I understand your pain. I was beaten, whipped, and crucified.

I miss him/her so much here on earth. I understand your grief. I left heaven to come to earth.

Why can't people just live forever and not have to die? I understand the problem. I came to give you eternal life.

God does understand. He wants to hear what you're feeling .

So in review, grief is a normal--but sometimes a confusing and uncontrollable--emotion. And mourning (dealing with grief) is a long, painful process. But remember: you will once again enjoy living and loving, you will get your appetite back, the pain will diminish, you will be able to sleep soundly again and you will be able to enjoy pleasant memories of the deceased.

Copyright © 1992 James N. Watkins