OK... on this topic.. there's million facts on my head. well during my 8 days vacation..i been thinking... so here we are. by the way thanks to amy..for the idea.
Physically we're not the same.(boy and girl) same goes to mentally, action, emotion and etc..(dont have to elaborate)
It is normal for boys and girls to be attracted or admire one to anothers. we cant fight it..anyway for some reason, some people against the idea of BOY n GIRL being BESTFRIEND.
For those narrow minded, let me point out 1 major fact we are now in the 21st century, wake up!!!!For those born at the year of 1900 to 1950's i dont blame you, because during that era there's limitation of frienship.
I dont see the problem for US male and female to be bestfriend. Some parents against the relationship and my mom fall under same category. i dont blame her. so i give and take. so here some fact pointed out by mom.
1. male and female, dont mix : BEST friend.
2. we some how have feeling toward each other.
3. there's a limitation / borders
4. we will have issues on FEELING ... hmmm ??? falling in love
5. society still on YELLOW light... for pete's sake..wake up
and the list goes on blah!blah!blah!
So here what i think. BESTFRIEND does not limit into same gender, we're all HUMAN am i right. if you dont think so... you must be a DOG! To be or not to be BESTFRIEND that the question! (eleh macam hamlet) Take an example AMY and I.. we been BESTFRIEND for 4 years now (correction 5 years!) of cause in some area we're totally different. i enjoy to be with her (excuse me not 24/7 be with her) we share joke, problem, work load (we work under the same roof) or you can say partner in crime. During 5 years know her, i dont have any issues with her. Her boyfriend and my girlfriend are cool about that. Amy not just bestfriend, more to little sister. And i proud to say that. We hang out till midnite, outing together, having the same hobbies, we exchange knowledge. (thats include CELINE DAYA)
For me, it's all about you as a person not because you're female or male. I dont understand what gender got to do with friendship???. Well of cause boys and girls has differences, no doubt bout that. one way or another some of us (boy & girl) having the same like and dislike.
MUTUAL : respect, interests and understanding.
For us "malaysian" when we saw a boy and a girl walking together, joking, having fun, having dinner or lunch together.. oohh must be couple or lover.. screw *#@%*^ (censor) you. Attraction between each other, that we have to analyze. Between me and my girls bestfriend (i have a few actually) no hanky panky... not that they are ugly or something you got that wrong... duh! some of them.. ehemmm drop dead gorgeous.. and good looking.. man will burn looking at them.. hehehe.. i'm blind if i dont notice this..
My special girlfriend - she never came close to a BESTFRIEND... she only casual friend, knowing her through friend..(you should know what CASUAL friend)..
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